Friday, August 18, 2006

The wind beneath my wings........

I'm sending and angel ahead of you to guard you along the way.
Exodus 23:20




A few months ago,on the 11th day of may,9:30pm on my birthday, I lost a very special person.He was my grandpa,my father,my most important friend,my number-one fan and the source I turned to when life got crazy.He was seventy-six awesome years "old".The fact that I lost the one person who loved me more deeply and most unconditionally of anyone who will ever love me in the course of my entire lifetime(apart from my parents,ofcourse)seemed surreal.
Sometimes I am simply sad,while other times i'm a little angry about the fact that maybe there was something i could have done to keep him alive much longer.On other days,I'm consoling myself with the wonderful and really special memories i have of me and him together.
My grandpa was my hero,the wind beneath my wings.........infact I owe him a lot.He brought me up from childhood and he believed that having a good education is the solid foundation to having a better life,and i believe that too.He always encouraged me to dream really big but also work really hard to make my big dreams happen.
But,Just as my life is different now without my grandpa,I'm also different .
My grandpa's passing away,has caused me to stand straight and square my shoulders to the world.I'm no longer a girl, I'm a woman and It's time for me to step forward and be the best me that I can ever be.

If you have a very close relationship with either one of your grandparents or both of them and you are so lucky as to still have then alive,be very thankful.Don't wait for a reason to tell them you appreciate and love them.Show it in all you say or do.Because if one day,they pass on,you just don't wan to regret that you didn't.Same with your parents and all your loved ones too.

And with that said,I have words for you too,Grandpa.
I know you know this,but it helps for me to say it,"I'll never give up,because you didn't bring me up to be a quitter.I will strive to be all you wished and prayed for me to be.I'll try my best to become the awesome and loving person you were.So help me God.
Thank You for loving me so much and for giving me the life that I have now.
Thank you for being the sort of person who is worthy of the enormous searing hurt I now feel.But I'll see you again,Grandpa.I promise you,For real.
I will never forget you........infact You made sure i don't,EVER!

love you so much.
your grand-daugther,
Oluwaseyi Rhoda ADEKOLA.

SPOTLIGHT ON.............When Romance gets in the way of friendships



Have u ever heard the saying "boyfriends and girlfriends come and go,but friendships are forever"?It's a nice saying,but in reality,its not 100% true.In fact,some boyfriends and girlfriends do last forever,while some friendships fade away.
No matter how you feel above the above quote,the truth is when a friend becomes romantically interested in someone,whether it's a just crush or a full-on relationship,it can put a strain on the friendship.Suddenly,time spent between friends comes second to time spent with a boyfriend or girlfriend.Sure,they still want to hang out with you,but only if their crush isn't available.Or maybe your friend is heartbroken by a crush,and nothing you do can make her feel any better.The things the two of you used to enjoy together just suddenly don't seem as fun.
While you can't control how your friend handles it when he or she is in a relationship or crushing hard on someone,here are some ways to make sure that when you're in that position,you don't jeopardize your friendships:
- Keep balance in your life...........there's enough time to hang out with your friends and your crush seperately.
- Continue doing things with your friends that are unique to the two of you.
- Don't blow off your friends at the last minute if a better offer comes along from a boyfriend or girlfriend.
- Talk to a sibling or parent and ask them if they think you're keeping things in perspective.
sometimes when you're "in it,"its hard to see whats really going on.

Thursday, August 17, 2006

For Real?

Like love,Friendship is a universal part of Life.
Here's how to say the word "Friend" in different parts of the planet:
Spanish ------ amigo,amiga
French ------ ami
German ------ freund
Italian ------ amico,amica
Norwegian ---- venn

Friendship means................

Friendship means really caring about a person.Not just in convenient situations.
It means taking the time out to help that person when you have like fifty thousand things to do.It means caring what's going on with that person,what problems they are having.
It means really loving that person.
'FRIENDSHIP IS LOVE"

Consider This..........

Every now and then, a friend comes along who inspires us........to be a better person,to dream big,to be ourselves.
Sometimes these friends aren't even aware of the power they have to affect us this way.They do it just by being who they are.

Can Boys and Girls be Just-friends?


I say 'Yes' to that question although you're free to have your own opinion on the issue.
Being Friends with someone of the opposite sex haas lots of benefits,like:
- Seeing things from an alternative point of view
- having a better understanding of the opposite sex
- less stress than same-sex friendship because competition and jealousy usually isn't an issue
- giving you a chance to do things you might not otherwise try.

Now come the possible downsides.
Opposite friendships can be confusing because:
- There's always the possibility of attraction.
- Your other friends might not believe you when you say you're "just friends".

Being A friend



The World says, 'you're a failure
A friend says, 'Good try,'you'll do better next time.

Your car breaks down in the middle of nowhere
The world drives by
A friend drives out to the middle of nowhere,picks you up and goes with you to the mechanic.

Your loved one dies,and you feel like you can't go on,
The world feels sorry for you
A friend prays for you.

You want to die and are considering suicide
The world ignores you and causes you more pain
A friend gives you a reason to live.

Life's challenges cause you to dismay
The world Forgets you
A friend gives you hope.

Wednesday, August 16, 2006

Lullaby for your friend.



When she's crying on your shoulder
and you don't know what to say
just whisper softly in her ear
that everything will be okay
when she says she's got a broken heart
and her soul feels so alone
just tell her that you love her

when you hear her breathe so gently
and see tears fall from her eyes
wipe them one by one away
and tell her evryone cries
and soon she'll look up at you
and maybe start to smile
and thank you for just being there
through all the painful while
and you'll look down and in her eyes
and know just what to say
that on you she can depend
and evrything will be okay.