Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Couples & Co.: Oh Yes, Whom You Decide To Marry Matters

Couples & Co.: Oh Yes, Whom You Decide To Marry Matters: My husband and I were once with a youth group. There were three kids sitting across from us at a meal: two guys and a girl. The one guy wa...

Saturday, October 21, 2006

My Sister

My Sister Arin

A sister is someone more special than words.
She's love mixed with friendship; the best things in life.
She's so much inner beauty blended together with an outward appearance
that brings a smile to the happiness in your heart...

A sister is one of the most precious people in the story of your life.
And you'll always be together, whether you’re near or apart.

Together, you have shared some of the most special moments
two people have ever shared.
A sister is a perspective on the past,
and she's a million favorite memories that will always last.
A sister is a photograph that is one of your most treasured possessions.
She's a note that arrives on a special day,
and when there's news to share,
she's the first one you want to call.
A sister is a reminder of the blessings that come from closeness.
Sharing secrets.
Disclosing dreams.
Learning about life together.

A sister is a confidante and a counselor.
She's a dear and wonderful friend,
and - in certain ways - something like a twin.
She's a hand within your hand;
she's so often the only one who really understands.
A sister is honesty and trust enfolded with love.
She's sometimes the only person who sees the horizon from your point of view,
and she helps you to see things more clearly.
She is a helper and a guide,
and she is a feeling, deep inside,
that makes you wonder what you would ever do without her.

What is a sister?
She's someone more special than words;
someone beautiful and unique..a friend forever!
And in so many ways, there is no one who is loved so dearly.

Handle with CARE

Friendship is a fragile something, marked "Handle with care"--
yet as sturdy as dependability and as rugged as loyalty. It's softly tender like love, and forgiveness, and hope-- yet as hard as truth and as firm as faith. Friendship is believing, when all others doubt. It's remembering, when all others have forgotten.
It's rejoicing in another's good fortune, weeping for another's bad luck. It's the man on the road to Jericho who goes where another is-- and supplies what is needed, whether it's a word of encouragement or praise, or an invitation to come take a walk. Somehow, a friend is intuitive and can sense a longing, and can come up with the right prescription to heal a headache, or comfort a hurt heart.
A friend is someone whose spirit is nourished by the identical food that feeds our own; someone with whom we can find companionship even in silence, or with whom we can share differing convictions in tolerant understanding. Because a friend looks upon you with affection and considers you something special, you put forth a mighty effort to live up to the ideal.
You are better just because you have a friend!
Olympic Pictures of Ryan Schroer

Photo by Darron Cummings, courtesy of The Republic
In this picture Ryan Schroer, a senior at Columbus North High School, carrying the torch.
A Story About Ryan Schroer, His Friends, and His Incredible Torch Run
By, Erika Harman
Columbus North High School
Who would have thought that a simple "Hello!" could have been the beginning of a wonderful friendship? This simple "Hello!" was all it took for Ryan Schroer and me to become great friends. I met Ryan in my biology class. He sat in the front of the class so that his motorized wheel chair wouldn't get in the way. I, however, believe that he wouldn't have gotten in the way no matter where he sat. From the first day of school, my simple "Hello!" and his cheerful reply were the keys to our friendship.
In our sophomore year, we were in the same English class--Mr. Weinheimer's English class. This year was great! Mr. Weinheimer was able to open Ryan up to even more people. The two became great friends. In fact, I'm not sure who taught the other person more. They even had a comedy act that was spontaneously put together every day. (This was because Ryan was the only person that actually laughed at Mr. Weinheimer's jokes.)
There was a time, however, in which Ryan was not able to come to school. He had surgery on his legs and hips. They had to keep him at home for rehabilitation. His parents had to turn his body every hour in order to prevent bed sores from occurring. His legs were very scarred and he was in a great deal of pain, but if you talked to him, he would never let on that he was in pain. He hid his pain from everyone.
A few weeks after our English class wrote letters to him, he was able to return to school for half of the day. Soon after this short period of time, he was able to come to school for the whole day. (What you may not understand is that this remarkable young man has cerebral palsy and has endured many an obstacle. Yet, he is able to go on living life to the fullest he is possibly able.) He knows the old saying "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." to the deepest and most personal extent.
In our junior year, we found that we didn't share a single class. This was not a problem, however, we just talked a little more in the hallway during passing periods. That year seemed to fly by. I must have blinked because I missed it! The highlight of the whole year (and maybe my life) was when Ryan asked me to hold the torch runner's flag that would mark the spot where Ryan would begin his Olympic torch run. When he asked me, I didn't know what to say. My first reaction was when I asked him why he didn't want someone from his family to hold it for him. He gently responded that he would be honored if I would accept this position for him. He said that the Olympic committee sent a letter saying that the person that holds the flag for him must be someone important to him. He said that I was important to him because I was the only true friend he had ever made that talked to HIM and not to his wheel chair. How could I refuse such a gracious compliment and request.
On June fifth, at 10:36 A.M., I left early from class in order to take the flag and reach Ryan's starting point early. As I walked down the sidewalk, my heart raced and my mind became a factory of questions. I kept wondering how everything was going to happen and how Ryan would respond to the huge crowd of thousands of people. On my way, I encountered Ryan's parents, grandparents, and brother. They had all come to support Ryan.
As we reached the starting point, the streets began to fill with students >from the surrounding schools and the area residents. Everyone had red, white, and blue on, and they each had an American flag. One school had even made two arches out of red, white, and blue balloons. These arches were big enough to cross the street and let semi-trucks pass through them. The patriotic atmosphere was set. The last ingredient was about to arrive. After the Coca-Cola trucks passed through, the van that carried the torch runners pulled into the drop-off point. All of the runners got out except Ryan. They lined up outside of the van and began to chant his name. Ryan! Ryan! Then all of the people that lined the streets joined in. Ryan! Ryan! It was all I could do to not cry.
The lift then lowered Ryan to the ground. There he was, in all his glory. People saw him for Ryan and not for his wheel chair. The other runners returned to the van and were off to their next drop-off point. The police then helped in directing the torch runner in the right direction. It all became slow motion at the sight of the arriving torch. I gave Ryan a hug and then stepped into my spot. The runner lit Ryan's torch and then Ryan began his journey. As he took off down the street, the chanting became louder and louder. The excitement filled the air and even I felt like I was on cloud number nine. I could not have been any prouder of Ryan! He deserved this moment in time-an historic moment-a moment that he was a part of and allowed me to be a part of, too.
As soon as Ryan began his torch run, his mother and I ran to the next relay point. It was amazing! Ryan was able to pass the torch to his favorite partner in comedy--Mr. Weinheimer. The excitement and happiness in Ryan's eyes could only express the feeling in the air. As Ryan approached Mr. Weinheimer, I could see the connection between the two. Mr. Weinheimer was another person that Ryan admired greatly and I'm sure the feeling was mutual between the two.
After Ryan passed the flame to Mr. Weinheimer, Mr. Weinheimer bent over and gave Ryan a hug. That moment will last in time forever. It symbolized the whole meaning of the flame. If anything, it showed the love, excitement, enthusiasm, brotherhood, and life of any man. The flame united every person as one. It was not the American Olympics that was held during the summer in Atlanta. It was the World Olympics. Ryan deserved his moment in time, and because of his family, he was able to enjoy it. The flame united us all and showed us all that love is really what makes this small world go around after all.

The making of Friends

Life is sweet because of the friends we have made
And the things which in common we share;
We want to live on, not because of ourselves,
But because of the ones who would care.
It's living and doing for somebody else
On that all of life's splendor depends,
And the joy of it all, when we count it all up,
Is found in the making of friends.
~Edgar A. Guest

Wednesday, October 18, 2006

Albert CAMUS

Don't believe your friends when they ask you to be honest with them. All they really want is to be maintained in the good opinion they have of themselves.

A Poem


Friend: that one special person
who makes life a bit
easier by just being
there and listening to your
problems and difficulties.

Friendship: a special bond
between two people.
A bond that time
cannot break. It is strong
like a chain, with linking

Friday, August 18, 2006

The wind beneath my wings........

I'm sending and angel ahead of you to guard you along the way.
Exodus 23:20

A few months ago,on the 11th day of may,9:30pm on my birthday, I lost a very special person.He was my grandpa,my father,my most important friend,my number-one fan and the source I turned to when life got crazy.He was seventy-six awesome years "old".The fact that I lost the one person who loved me more deeply and most unconditionally of anyone who will ever love me in the course of my entire lifetime(apart from my parents,ofcourse)seemed surreal.
Sometimes I am simply sad,while other times i'm a little angry about the fact that maybe there was something i could have done to keep him alive much longer.On other days,I'm consoling myself with the wonderful and really special memories i have of me and him together.
My grandpa was my hero,the wind beneath my wings.........infact I owe him a lot.He brought me up from childhood and he believed that having a good education is the solid foundation to having a better life,and i believe that too.He always encouraged me to dream really big but also work really hard to make my big dreams happen.
But,Just as my life is different now without my grandpa,I'm also different .
My grandpa's passing away,has caused me to stand straight and square my shoulders to the world.I'm no longer a girl, I'm a woman and It's time for me to step forward and be the best me that I can ever be.

If you have a very close relationship with either one of your grandparents or both of them and you are so lucky as to still have then alive,be very thankful.Don't wait for a reason to tell them you appreciate and love them.Show it in all you say or do.Because if one day,they pass on,you just don't wan to regret that you didn't.Same with your parents and all your loved ones too.

And with that said,I have words for you too,Grandpa.
I know you know this,but it helps for me to say it,"I'll never give up,because you didn't bring me up to be a quitter.I will strive to be all you wished and prayed for me to be.I'll try my best to become the awesome and loving person you were.So help me God.
Thank You for loving me so much and for giving me the life that I have now.
Thank you for being the sort of person who is worthy of the enormous searing hurt I now feel.But I'll see you again,Grandpa.I promise you,For real.
I will never forget you........infact You made sure i don't,EVER!

love you so much.
your grand-daugther,
Oluwaseyi Rhoda ADEKOLA.

SPOTLIGHT ON.............When Romance gets in the way of friendships

Have u ever heard the saying "boyfriends and girlfriends come and go,but friendships are forever"?It's a nice saying,but in reality,its not 100% true.In fact,some boyfriends and girlfriends do last forever,while some friendships fade away.
No matter how you feel above the above quote,the truth is when a friend becomes romantically interested in someone,whether it's a just crush or a full-on relationship,it can put a strain on the friendship.Suddenly,time spent between friends comes second to time spent with a boyfriend or girlfriend.Sure,they still want to hang out with you,but only if their crush isn't available.Or maybe your friend is heartbroken by a crush,and nothing you do can make her feel any better.The things the two of you used to enjoy together just suddenly don't seem as fun.
While you can't control how your friend handles it when he or she is in a relationship or crushing hard on someone,here are some ways to make sure that when you're in that position,you don't jeopardize your friendships:
- Keep balance in your life...........there's enough time to hang out with your friends and your crush seperately.
- Continue doing things with your friends that are unique to the two of you.
- Don't blow off your friends at the last minute if a better offer comes along from a boyfriend or girlfriend.
- Talk to a sibling or parent and ask them if they think you're keeping things in perspective.
sometimes when you're "in it,"its hard to see whats really going on.

Thursday, August 17, 2006

For Real?

Like love,Friendship is a universal part of Life.
Here's how to say the word "Friend" in different parts of the planet:
Spanish ------ amigo,amiga
French ------ ami
German ------ freund
Italian ------ amico,amica
Norwegian ---- venn

Friendship means................

Friendship means really caring about a person.Not just in convenient situations.
It means taking the time out to help that person when you have like fifty thousand things to do.It means caring what's going on with that person,what problems they are having.
It means really loving that person.

Consider This..........

Every now and then, a friend comes along who inspires be a better person,to dream big,to be ourselves.
Sometimes these friends aren't even aware of the power they have to affect us this way.They do it just by being who they are.

Can Boys and Girls be Just-friends?

I say 'Yes' to that question although you're free to have your own opinion on the issue.
Being Friends with someone of the opposite sex haas lots of benefits,like:
- Seeing things from an alternative point of view
- having a better understanding of the opposite sex
- less stress than same-sex friendship because competition and jealousy usually isn't an issue
- giving you a chance to do things you might not otherwise try.

Now come the possible downsides.
Opposite friendships can be confusing because:
- There's always the possibility of attraction.
- Your other friends might not believe you when you say you're "just friends".

Being A friend

The World says, 'you're a failure
A friend says, 'Good try,'you'll do better next time.

Your car breaks down in the middle of nowhere
The world drives by
A friend drives out to the middle of nowhere,picks you up and goes with you to the mechanic.

Your loved one dies,and you feel like you can't go on,
The world feels sorry for you
A friend prays for you.

You want to die and are considering suicide
The world ignores you and causes you more pain
A friend gives you a reason to live.

Life's challenges cause you to dismay
The world Forgets you
A friend gives you hope.

Wednesday, August 16, 2006

Lullaby for your friend.

When she's crying on your shoulder
and you don't know what to say
just whisper softly in her ear
that everything will be okay
when she says she's got a broken heart
and her soul feels so alone
just tell her that you love her

when you hear her breathe so gently
and see tears fall from her eyes
wipe them one by one away
and tell her evryone cries
and soon she'll look up at you
and maybe start to smile
and thank you for just being there
through all the painful while
and you'll look down and in her eyes
and know just what to say
that on you she can depend
and evrything will be okay.

Wednesday, May 24, 2006

Secret side of friendship

It's not often that you see girls throwing elbows and blows out in the quad.And girls aren't known for being phisically agressive.
But girls are mentally agressive.Any girl who's been caught between two warring girlfriends can vouch that this is true.The dirty looks,the intentional snubs,the snotty voices or looks, and the teasing and trashing that go on behind girls' backs is rough stuff.Its's every bit as brutal as guys are when they fist-fight.It's just that it's quieter,less obvious to people around,and can go on for what seems like forever.
This is the secret side of friendship.
When a friendship goes bad we might end up on the receiving end of attitudes like these.People do end up disliking one another.
And sometimes,there's nothing we can do to fix the problem.
We can manage the problem,though in my next post, i'm going to give you three ways to keep your head above waters when friendships go,see you then.

Friday, April 28, 2006

Friendship Saviour...............................A story

Mark was walking home from school one day when he noticed a boy ahead of him had tripped and dropped all of his books he was carrying,along with two sweaters,a baseball bat,a glove and a small tape recorder.Mark knelt down and helped the boy pick up the scattered articles.

Since they were going the same way,he helped to carry part of the burden. As they walked,Mark discoverd the boy's name was Bill,that he loved video games,baseball and history,and that he was having lots of trouble with his other subjects and that he had just broken up with his girlfriend.

They arrived Bill's home first and Mark was invited in for a Coke and to watch some television.The afternoon passed pleasantly with few laughs and some shared small talk,then Mark went home.

They continued to see each other around school,had lunch together once or twice,then both graduated from junior high school.They ended up in the same high school where they had brief contacts over the years.

Finally,the long awaited senior year came and three weeks before graduation,Bill asked Mark if they could talk.Bill reminded him of the day,years ago when they had first met."Did you ever wonder why I was carrying so many things home that day?" asked Bill. " You see, I cleaned out my locker because i didn't want to leave a mess for anyone else.I had stored away some of my mother's sleeping pills and I was going to commit suicide.But after we spent some time together talking and laughing,I realized that if I had killed myself,I would have missed that time and many others that might follow.So you see Mark,When you picked up those books that day,you did a lot more for me,you saved my life."

Every little hello,every smile,every helping hand saves a hurting heart.
There's a miracle of "friendship" that dwells in the heart.You don't know how it happens or when it started but,you know the special lift it always brings and you realize that friendship is God's most precious gift!

Friends are very rare jewels,indeed.They make you smile and encourage you to succeed.They lend an ear,they share a word of praise,and they always want to open their hearts to us.

A simple v Real Friendship

A simple friend identifies himself when he calls.
A real friend doesn't have to.

A simple friend opens up a conversation with a full news bulletin on his life.
A real friend says, ''whats new with you?''
A simple friend thinks the problems you whine about are recent.
A real friend says, "You've been whining about the same thing for 14 years.Get off your duff and do something about it."
A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A simple friend doesn't know your parents first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed.
A real friend asks why you took so long to call.
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you solve your problems.
A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could easily blackmail you with it.
A simple friend,when visiting,acts like a guest.
A real friend opens the refrigerator and helps himself.
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument.
A real friend knows that it's not a real friendship until after you've had a fight.
A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!

Friendship Challenge

Have you ever had a friend who crossed the line and there was no going back?


Saturday, April 22, 2006

Always be an ally...................

This rule is more than golden.Its platinum.Never talk behind a friend's back.We've all been there: you're hanging with girls who start ragging on a friend.And hey,you don't like sarah's new hairstyle,either.So its no biggie to had your two cents,right?Wrong.You thought it would help you fit in,but really you've sold out your friend and proved you're a gossip.
Instead of talking crap about your friends,try gossiping ............... with compliments.When they say,she thinks ''she's so gorgeous'', you can say,''she really is gorgeous''.The result:the other girls get that you like Sarah and shut-up.Plus,They'll probably realize you won't bad-mouth them, either,which can't help but make them respect You.But best of all?You were true to a friend.And isn't that the point?If you are not a good friend,there are no rules that will help!
See?by having the guts to stick up for your friendships,your friends will want to always get your back in return.And,hello!what's better than that?

Thursday, April 06, 2006

Thats what friends are for....................

Part of being a girl is learning how to get a crew around us that's true,builds us up and cheer us on instead of backstabbing or tearing us down.
So here's the deal.We all need friends beyond belief.Friends keep you centered,share your dreams,encourage you to reach your goals,give you an outlet for your problems,and help you make the good times even better.
Friends can be there when your family situation is not the best.Friends can investigate your questions with you,help you grow,and give you good advice.Your best friends make you better in some ways.Friends who can see into one another's soul and care about growth,support,and the future of each other are the kind we all really need.
But there is no guarantee when it comes to friends.Not every-body is like, ''How cool are you?!Lets be friends forever!''The fact is,you won't bond with everyone,and you'll need some of each.So don't sweat it if you don't become bestfriends with everyone that comes into your life.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006

The Tried-and-True Friend

Pop Quiz:Can You ask your bestfriend the following questions and actually get an honest answer?
1.Do people think i'm fat?
2.What do i hope to become or do in future with my life?
3.What is best about the person i am?
4.Am i annoying sometimes?
The four questions here represent the four kinds of knowledge that our very best,very deepest,very most intimate friendships should have.
The first question asks something superficial,or about the surface stuff in our life people see everyday.Can your bestfriend hit you with the honest truth?
The second question asks about our mind,heart and soul.It's a personal question that probably not everyone who knows you could answer.Its a question that wraps up what you're all about or what you'll be in future.
The third question is about inspiration and respect between people.Does your friend look at you and see a pretty face?Or,does your friend look at you and see charity,honesty,intelligence,or a kind soul?
The fourth, and last question, is about the good and bad of your relationship together.Is your friend someone who can look with honesty at the kind of relationship you have with each other?If so,the answer to the question should be ''yes''.All people are annoying at sometime or another to everyone.Even the very bestfriends have times when they think, go away!you're bugging me.
If you and your friend can talk honestly about all four of these things,its a good bet that you're true-and-tried friends.
So remember these four things that make a friend tried-and-true:
1.Truthfulness about what we hear and see around us in life.
2.An ear to listen to each other's dreams and know what's in the other person's soul.
3.An eye to find what's inspiring within the other person.
4.The openness to be able to come clean with how you really feel about the other person.


Do you trust your Friend 100%

It depends
I dont know

Tuesday, February 21, 2006

Hobby friends

Hobby-friends are people we end up meeting because we revolve in similar circles.The Hobby-friend is someone who plays the same sport that we do,a person we kick it with every weekend at church or a girl or guy that works at our job.There's good and bad part about having hobby-friends.The good stuff is that you don't usually expect to have it out with a hobby-friend or have to endure full-on fights.The fact is that we just don't really see hobby-friends often enough to move to a deeper level where we're each pushing each other's buttons or making one another mad.
Here's the thing though.Our hobby-friends aren't the shoulder we cry on when things go bad.Our hobby-friend doesn't usually have to deal with us when we're cranky,stressed,bossy,or being a complete pain in the but.
Instead,hobby-friends almost always get to see us at our best because we spend only a limited amount of time with them.And guess what?We usually see their best side too.Its hard to guess what our hobby-friends can really be like day in and day out because we both see each other for so little time.
There's always an exception to any rule,though,right?
In the case of a hobby friend,the exception might be a hobby that crosses over to your daily life.You guys might see each other in all your classes,go on trips to conventions,performances or games,and see each other at weekly practice sessions.
What all of this time together can mean is that you have a chance to do some serious bonding.Be on the look out for hobby-friends that can cross over into your daily life.You may pick up a TRIED-AND-TRUE FRIEND! Posted by Picasa

Friendship means..........

You know you have a friend for life when they answer the phone at one in the morning because you can't sleep and have lots on your mind,and they don't mind talking about nothing to get your mind off everything.
They spare sometime to spend with you.
When you know that if something bad happened to you they'd be there for you,no questions asked.
When you can look at them when something is wrong and they know it just by the look in their eyes and all they have to do is offer a hug and you feel a thousand times better.
When you know they'd never lie to you,and would never hurt you and if they did it,would only be for your betterment.
They can make you laugh when the skies are the darkest,and they're there with a good movie and some popcorn when you're totally depressed.
And if you're a thousand miles apart,it doesn't matter because what you share with this friend is so much deeper than what lies on top that distance and it plays no role in your friendship.

Friendship is when they push when you need it,but never too hard;and stand back when the time is right but never too far.
And the TRUE TEST OF FRIENDSHIP is if you're willing to do it all back in a heartbeat.
When your life is so much better because you know them,and they bring out the best that lies within you.

The love of a friend

Being a friend is easy when the times are good or when you benefit from the friendship.But a TRUE FRIEND sticks by your side when things get tough.This is the kind of friend you all desire but to have this kind of friend,you also have to be that kind of friend.Love is still the greatest cure the world has ever known - no matter what the problem.The love of a friend makes you feel totally accepted just the way you are.The love of a friend asks how you are doing and really waits and listens for an answer.The love of a friend touches you - even though she knows all about you,she loves you anyway.The love of a friend stays with you when others desert you.The love of a friend is a gift from God. Posted by Picasa


orgive each other
Refresh each other
Invest in each other
Encourage each other
Nurture each other
Depend on each other
Share with each other
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Monday, February 20, 2006

Just Friends

Doesn't it annoy you when a couple will go out for a period of time,have differences,break up and both decide to JUST BE FRIENDS.I mean,do people really think that they can ever go back to the movies,have play fights and hang out on a buddy level?When deep down,all they can think about is whether the other has a new boyfriend/girlfriend,and wonder if they will get back together again.I don't really think that ex-couples will ever get over an inside awkwardness and think of each other as a mate............Or if a girl is asked out by a guy,and she just wants to be friends,as if he will think of her as a friend.

When it comes to just a guy and girl starting out as buddies,definately,this works for everybody.But as far as guy and gals of roughly the same generation goes,no-one is totally free of romantic inclinations that come from deep down,whether people are aware of it or not. Posted by Picasa

True friends

True friends always pop up to say hello!
True friends don't care if you're a lil different.
True friends never fight like cats and dogs.
True friends will drive you anywhere.
True friends let anyone come along.
True friends don't laugh at you when you've made a fool of yourself.
True friends help you up when you're down.
AND True friends NEVER let you do something you'll regret afterwards. Posted by Picasa

How to be a good friend

How To Be A Good Friend

I just wanna explain how to be a good friend and I will try not to get to soppy and lovey dovey and keep details strictly to the cold hearted facts (actually, maybe I won't be that severe and detour from the cold and hard facts occasionally!).
Step 1: I suggest that if you want to be a good friend you become friends with someone you actually like. This automatically eliminates all teachers, politicians and people who get rid of school holidays.
Step 2: Once you have found someone you have things in common with, you should expand on this and get to know your friend better. Perhaps inviting her to sit next to you in maths or even talking to her now and then could help.
Step 3: If you mutually decide you have some things in common, good - you have found yourself a nice new friend. If you don't have anything in common, don't worry and keep searching - there are plenty of other fishes in the sea!
Step 4: Now yes, this friend will require quite a large proportion of your time, because naturally both parties need to be enthusiastic for a friendship to blossom. This means that you will need to support your friend in all their chosen paths, but be prepared to advise them against treading through dangerous waters.
Step 5: A friendship which is built upon mutual trust, respect, support and (my favourite) the acceptance of differences and the right to be an individual will foster other benefits such as loads of fun times where you party together or just hang out and share secrets (now don't deny it - these are the benefits that you were just itching to hear about!!)
Step 6: Well, now that you've found a friend, you should work on keeping them (that is if want to be a good friend and not just a friend fling). My best word of advice would be to continue with the above steps, make your friend feel loved and wanted and show you do care about them. If they're down and feel like they have no one in the world, prove them wrong by rocking up to their house with a bunch of sunflowers and a bottle of wine (or cordial, depending on how old you and your friend are) and talk through their concerns with them. If you're not the flower type, take them out for a big night on the town for a sure fire way to lift their spirits!If you chose to take my advice and it sucessfully finds you a good friend, then I fulfilled my task!! I now wish to sign, stay cool and happy friend hunting:)

Sunday, February 19, 2006

I've learnt that there are many good friends around,but true best friends are hard to come by.
I've learned that you can do something or nothing with a best friend and still have the best time.
I've learned that when a best friend is happy,you find yourself happy too,even when it has nothing to do with you.
I've learned that a true friendship has memories,both good or bad,but all is important.
I've learned that your heart is forever touched by a true best friend,no matter how things end up.
I've learned that when your heart is broken,a best friend is the best band-aid for it.
I've learned that nothing sounds stupid,funny,or unbelievable to a bestfriend,and you never feel stupid saying whatever it is.
I 've learned that sometimes you love a best friend more than a boyfriend.
I've learnt that the one who truly understands you is a true friend.
I've learned that a best friend is all you know.
I've learned that sometimes you wonder how she knew,but then you realize that's how close you are.
I've learned that when you're TRUE BEST FRIENDS everyone else knows it.
I've learned that,most importantly of all,best friends will always be best friends,no matter what is happening in their lives,where they are or what they are doing.A best friend is IRREPLACEABLE.Posted by Picasa

MY BEST FRIEND............................

knows me well,and still likes me.
someone who i can call a slut and she calls me a whore and we are still best friends.
A gift from God...........unexpected,priceless and lasts FOREVER! Posted by Picasa

Some friends know all about us,and they like us just the same.They accept us as we are...... not asking us to change.
They never criticize us while listening to our views.
They stay when others leave and speak when some refuse.
There aren't many friends like that...........and precious few i claim my self.
But at the top of the list, I'v proudly put your name............ Posted by Picasa
FAITHFUL FRIENDS belive in each other.
bring out the best in each other.
celebrate the victories.
comfort each other during the difficult times.
tell the truth no matter what.
insist on growth.
bring honor to God. Posted by Picasa
A true friend is someone who sees me at my worst but never forgets my best.
A true friend is someone who thinks i'm a little bit more wonderful than i really am.
A true friend is someone i can talk with for hours or be with in complete silence.
A true friend is a person who is as happy for my successes as i am.
A true friend trusts me enough to say what he really means when talking to me.
A true friend doesn't try to know more,act smarter,or be my constant teacher.A friend is a friend.
A true friend is a person who listens to me even when she isn't particularly interested in what im saying.........she listens because she sees its important to me. Posted by Picasa

Saturday, February 18, 2006

People today,in all this new world technology and thinking,have lost site of what a true friendship is.So,in the spirit of my best friends,i thought i would help the world out a little and explain what a real,true friends are.

1. Friends don't have to be exactly the same.Friends have similarities and differences.The key to opening up the world of friendship is not only to expand on similarities but to accept each other's faults.....because you can't ever judge your friend.
2. Friends have to argue!No one likes to but it is necessary to be healthy.Cause if you agree on everything,either the government has expanded cloning subjects or someone isn't being true and is trying a little bit too hard.
3.You have to be comfortable together or else you just aren't going to click.If you feel edgy around the person then something just aint right.
4.Friends love unconditionally.They have their little angry moments but what is done is done and all is forgiven and forgotten.Why let something that happened in the past ruin what business you could have in the future?
5. Believe in Love at first sight because there is the equivalent in friendship.Some people think that you have to know someone really well to become good friends.Trust me...........its not true. If the first time you really spend time together,you talk for 25hours straight until 4.30 in the morning about some topic you thought no one else in the world understood,hun,thats real love at first sight.

These are only a few basics.Just remember,FRIENDS ARE FOREVER!But only if you keep it that way.Don't miss your buds,love them instead.And when they drive you crazy,love them that much more for being just a little bit different and maybe just a little bit quirky! Posted by Picasa